Perspectives

Coaching can be so valuable. Coaches listen attentively, reflect back your thoughts, promote clarity, and provides a safe and trusting environment for discussion. That comes in handy if you need a new perspective, like when your find yourself emotional while interacting with family members, friends or people at work. Instead of  identifying the emotion, you respond from your frame of reference.  You interject your values, opinions, and emotions.

If your not feeling well, experiencing side effects of medication, or distracted, can you really be cognizant of what the different perspectives are of those around you? Are you responding in a manner that promotes effective communication or are you missing some of the cues and body language that enhance the interaction?

If you notice, in the course of any interaction, your opinions or emotions surfacing, stop and listen fully to the other person. Allowing others to  fully express themselves honors them and promotes healthy communication. Later you can identify the cause for any reactions you are experiencing.

Remembering that people see things from their own perspective helps to eliminate any expectation or distortion present in your thinking.  And, it helps you transform the whole communicative process for the better. Accept the challenge to recognize what perspectives you bring to the conversation.

Those nights

In the middle of the night, awake yet tired, lies an immense desire to develop into something more than what you are now. Your symptoms align and disturb your rest.

It's the middle of the night and you realize that it's only you that bears the burden and suffering of your choices, even if it effects others. In your turmoil you await sunrise despite its potential hardship. No one can possibly feel this alone and accountable, can they?  Yes, they can and, how well you know it.

It's on nights like this that you find new resolve. Perhaps to change your schedule to accommodate sleep. Perhaps to speak to someone about what ails you. Perhaps a new idea to solve your problems.  Or maybe you vow to overcome your pain in some new way so that you might rest better - tturn off the noise.

These nights, whatever your plight, invite you to discover something about yourself.  What might it be and what can you do?

Use the night to breath deep and find calm. Listen to your thoughts, write them down, expound on them, maybe even challenge them. These are the thoughts to discuss with your coach, a friend, a therapist, or a significant other.

Then, when the sun rises to remind you that it's morning, the remnants of the night slide from your memory and all that was once so powerful becomes elusive.  But, you have written down their essence during the shadows of the night so as to understand them on the new day. 

Yours is a progressive journey of discovery and creation.  And, it all belongs to you to unveil.

Coaching

Seeking understanding
seeking new perspectives
seeking inspiration
seeking motivation
seeking feedback
seeking empowerment
seeking insight
seeking awareness

creating vision
creating plans
creating change
creating value
creating fulfillment
creating outcomes
creating clarity
creating life maps

developing perserverance
developing strategies
developing inner strength
developing ideas
developing methods

understanding intuition
understanding awareness
understanding potential
understanding events

Caoching helps the seeker create, develop, understand, and imagine much, much more.  I invite you to experience coaching.

Positive self-talk

Over the last few weeks there have been frustrating moments in my life that made me uncomfortable and uneasy.  Those moments were building on upon another until I felt somewhat angry at the daily routines of life. Internestingly, I noticed my peace evaporate and feelings of sadness were consuming me. I became lethargic and all I wanted to do was sleep.

One morning I got up and looked into the mirror and thought, wow, you're not what your used to be. There are lines and wrinkles and....
At that moment it occurred to me that I was going along with the theme that I had been experiencing lately.  That negativity and poor self talk.  I also realized that it was my choice as to whether or not I would accept that mode of thinking.

So, what I did was step back and tell myself that being unhappy, dissatisfied, negative, and lethargic is not what I want.  I took 3 deep breaths, stretched a little, and smiled. Then I said a few prayers that I have posted on my fridge, and made myself get ready for the day.

Things improved dramatically and before I knew it, I was doing what I do with peace, calm, and appreciation. I had a conversation with my coach and that furthered my committment to do whatever it takes to engage in conscious thinking. I know how it important it is to stay proactive in self care. We all do.

It's our job to be okay--to develop practices that enhance our thinking and well being. It was a few days ago that I made the commitment to stay cognizant of my responsibility to myself.  Who else will do it for me? I know this week I intend to do the same ritual, if you will.  That is, engage in positive self talk, remember it's my responsibility to be proactive in my well being, and to step back and erase negativity. It works.


I challenge you to do the same for yourself this week.  It's what gets you through.