Woe is me

Everyone dreads listening to the complaining friend or relative who is always sick. The "woe is me" speaker. It's tiresome especially if you don't feel well yourself. Sometimes you don't know what to say yet your realize people need to talk about what ails them. They need someone to listen because being sick is frightening and isolating.

Did you ever turn the other way in the grocery store to avoid someone so you wouldn't have to listen to the current ache of the cancer patient, or transplant recipient? Did you ever think to yourself, " I think there is something more than cancer wrong with that one!"

When you have a medical condition, you can be sure that there is dis'ease' in your thinking. That's why I discuss staying strong, focused, and in charge of your condition. That's why I recommend coaching. I don't want you to be avoided in the grocery store or anywhere else.









Coaching is so valuable with helping one stay empowered because it is a catalyst for planning and offering a different perspective.

Staying Empowered

Incorporating a health condition into your daily life is essential to function. Coaching is a great tool for planning your life around medication needs, doctors visits, changes in relationships, and the multitude of other  changes that are a result of the medical condition. Once you establish a routine, it's much easier to function and life becomes somewhat normal.

When I say normal, I don't mean that lightly. It's a 'new normal' for anyone who is dealing with changing health. It's worrisome, aggravating, and often scary to face the effects of a medical condition. Just when it seems fully justifiable to give up is when you MUST find a way to stay empowered. Questions worthy of your attention are: How am I going to cope with my condition? Who am I now that I am impaired? How do I see myself in 6 months, a year, 5 years? Am I going to take on this health challenge with grace and style?

There is nothing easy in it. But, the beauty of life lies in the knowledge that we have choices. To decide to stay empowered is an important one. What does that mean? Well, for instance, staying abreast of the most current medical data on your condition, following doctors orders and expanding them, testing your limits daily to encourage strength and stamina, keeping your support system on call, and creating a vision for your future.  
That's a start, and know, with all that to do, you won't have time to focus on the medical condition, instead, your focus will be on becoming the best you can be. Just take it a step at a time, a day at a time, and remember, a medical condition is just another aspect of you to embrace and mold.

Vote

We find out this week who wins the Presidency. It's exciting and important. No matter who wins, think about America and her staying power. Will she continue to be the shining beacon for the world? Campaigns bring out information that questions this. Will America continue to shine?  Does the next President really determine this?  And, if so, which one provides the most hope?

None of us know for sure the answer to the questions, we can only speculate. How nice it would be if, no matter who the winner is, we each made a conscious decision to support that person, for if we do, we champion our America. It is all about America.

I believe that America will continue to shine no matter who wins. She will. She must. Make sure to vote.

Should

Marketing guru Seth Godin wrote a blog on Saturday about getting rid of the 'shoulds' in your life. So, I decided to pay attention to all the 'shoulds' I use. I made a commitment to pay attention to my thinking and become aware of when I am using the 'should' language in my life. It didn't take long before I realized the frequency of 'should' in my thoughts.

Then, I became aware of the feelings I got when I used certain 'shoulds.'  I discussed many of these feelings with my coach, and realized there were some 'shoulds' that I didn't need and there were other 'shoulds,' that served me. In actuality, there are some 'shoulds' that keep me acting on the kind of life I want. Can you plan your 'shoulds' and be okay with them? Then, just get rid of the 'should's that cause unease or dissention internally? I believe you can.

I throw out a challenge to you this week. Take a look at your 'shoulds,' 'coulds,' and 'woulds' and see how they are affecting your life.  Are you planning their use strategically, or, are they your strategy? Talk to your coach and friends. See what your learn.

Should you do this?

Writing history

Most of us start out healthy and full of life. For most, life follows a path that is full of learning, working, and growing into old age.  Along the way, while experiencing the victories and defeats, they follow the laws of nature and continue on until their natural rhythm slows and old age prevails.

Then there are those who find dis'ease' in their existence and succumb to negativity. Their thoughts do not bring life, rather, they invite darkness and victimhood.  They become sicker and sicker. They live in darkness until either the disease or old age prevails.

The clock ticks on and often neither pay attention to their course until something or someone triggers a change in perspective. Then, there is spiritual learning, empathy, compassion, and gratitute, via coaching, therapy, religion, research, or simply curiosity.

All the while creating life into old age, writing our history, becoming.

What do you think?

Pretending

I remember those days of healing after my heart transplant, and how very hard they were. There was pain, loneliness, questions, confusion, anxiety, and a whole host of other dilemmas that constituted the days and nights of my life.  No one could be with me 24 hours a day to share in all of it. And, that was a good thing because it gave me the space for learning coping skills. There is power in loneliness. Although that may not be the truest statement, I pretended it was. To combat my pain, I pretended it didn't exist. I called it's persistence an annoyance and created visions of comfort, relaxation, and calm. I pretended I was bigger than it and that it had no power over me.  When the haze of confusion set in, culminating in anxiety because of it's distortions, I said a few mantras, like: "God willing and me trying---I will get through this." And, "I am in charge of how I think---confusion has no power over me!"  The other dilemmas, many of a personal nature, were chances for me to review my life, all the mistakes, heartbreaks, and wins. Once they were put into perspective, a wiser perspective prevailed.

What's my point? I think you know--the power of pretending. It sure does come in handy. You can be anything you want to be when you pretend.  When you pretend your okay--you are. When you pretend your happy--you are. When you pretend your beautiful -- you are. When you pretend your well-- you are.

As you start the week, think about the power of pretending. Talk to your coach about it. Decide to pretend. Have some fun with it. Make it work for you.

Are you pretending?

Is it a change in the weather?

Out of sorts, not feeling well, foggy--all symptoms of the change in the weather. Your either coming down with something or your immune system is combating some bug that has already arrived. Add this to a condition already present, and the effect is magnified. Who are you in this?

Looking at your symptoms and how they are affecting you says something about who you are and who you will be in the future. A symptom may be reflective of more than one thing or event. Maybe your being called to address something. Illness is an interesting thing. It will sometimes manifest as a result of something within. To delve into it is to better understand yourself. For, you may discover the answer to the question, what is the actual cause?

Sometimes it's easier to look to others for support or distraction. Or you may bake a pie, watch a tearful or funny movie, go shopping, or take a walk. All in an effort to avoid what ails you. It helps. But, the questions remains. Is it really a change in the weather?

What do you really want to consume you? Illness?  Love?  Your creativity? October ushers in Fall, a new season. With every new season, as with every day, comes an opportunity to become all that you want to become. To make important choices. To set goals. Coaching is a catalyst for change.

Who do you wish to become?

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